I came across a quote this morning.  A few words of wisdom, but also of caution.  It is by Brian Piergrossi and simply states, "the greatest teachers & mentors never encourage you to be like them. They create a space that allows you to discover yourself." 


So true. 

Love Actually

One of my favorite lines from a movie can be found in the first few minutes of Love Actually.

  

Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport.  General opinion's starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don't see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often it's not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it's always there – fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge – they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I've got a sneaky feeling you'll find that love actually is all around.

Jeffrey Cannon

Simple Truth

Are People Good or Evil?

When I was young I asked my older brother if people were inherently good or evil.  He thought about it for a while before answering.  Finally he said, “the reason every car window is not smashed after being parked on the street all night, and the reason every antenna is not bent or torn out is that the vast majority of people don’t want to hurt someone else’s property.  The only reason cities are not in a case of constant riot is that people actually want to live in peace if they are given the chance.” 

Peace and compassion are the most natural state for people.  We desire company and friendship.  We desire love.  Yes, there will always be a small minority who use violence as a release or to get what they want.  But for the most part, most people play fairly.  Most people are honest. Most people are loving. 

So expect the best.  But be prepared for the worst.  Give people a chance to be good.  Approach them with compassion but watch for their response.  You will most likely be surprised at how willing people are to help.  Just be prepared if the alternative happens.

Leave yourself a path to walk away from that small percent that is not.

Jeffrey Cannon

Simple Truth

Tape Measure of Your Life

Let’s start by taking five minutes to do a very simple exercise.  Open up a tape measure and extend it to eighty-five inches.  Don’t just visualize it, take the time to find a tape measure and extend it.  Those eighty-five inches are the average lifespan of a person, more or less.  Now, measure out your age in inches.  Do you see what is left?  That is how much time you most likely have.  Sure, you may live past that. You may also get hit by a bus before it.  Just realize that if you are forty-five years old you most likely have thirty-five years left to live your life. 

At the same time, it is just as important to realize that everything you have done, every precious memory, every little adventure, everything that you know or have even forgotten up to this point has been rolled into whatever inches you measured out.  If you are only half-way to eighty-five then you could do everything that you have ever experienced all over again.  If you are in your twenties, you can live all of your current life over again four times. 

This should be you wakeup call.  No matter how many inches you have left, your life is far from over.  Even if you only have a few years remaining, or even a few days, why would you want to spend them by doing anything less than by being true to YOURSELF?  

Look down at your tape measure again.  No matter how many are stretched out before you, each mark should be a call for celebration because you can have that much more to experience.

Each mark should also be a reminder to be careful of how you spend your time.   Cherish it.  Protect it.  Most important enjoy it.  It is the one commodity you cannot save, you cannot lock away, and you can never get back.  Every second is an investment in your future.  So spend it wisely.  Because even if you don't spend it, once it is gone it is gone forever. 

So invest a few seconds to be aware of how you spend your time.  Invest the time to be mindful of the things you do so that you do good things.  Invest the time to give to others and to help others.  Make sure you invest your time wisely because that is what it is, an investment.  Make sure that when you give it to someone else, you give it out carefully, as you would with money.  When you do spend it, make sure that you spread it evenly and lovingly.  That is the best way to garner a positive return on your investment in your time. 

Above all, and most important, make sure you keep some for yourself.  That can often be the best way to invest your most precious commodity – by saving some for yourself.












Jeffrey Cannon
Simple Truth

At What Point Does Your House Own You?

I remember a camping trip that went wildly wrong years ago.  We arrived at our site after a long hike just as the weather started  to turn.  It was too late to hike back out so we pitched our tent on what would have been an idyllic spot and decided to brave whatever the night would bring.  

Not long after, the rain started.  As the sun set, the temperature dropped and the now freezing rain quickly doused what remained of our fire.  We spent that night under a tent that quickly started to leak.  We spent that night eating cold, sticky mouthfuls of the uncooked food that we had packed in.  We were miserable.

After a sleepless night we hefted our gear and packed out at first light.  We slogged our way down the trail and eventually made it to our car.  The ride home was a silent witness to our despair.  I do remember, though, that the shining moment of the entire weekend was opening the door to our home and getting hit with the warm, dry air of our living room.  We made hot cups of tea with the flip of a switch and enjoyed hot showers for what seemed like hours.  Just knowing we were safely home brought an unbelievable sense of joy.  

It was the simplest of experiments that proved the most basic of essentials could bring us untold happiness.  They would to anyone in our position.

I still don’t know if I was ten times happier at home that day or a hundred times happier.  I just know I was happier.  And here comes the tricky part.  The logical assumption one would naturally make is that if having just a house made me that much happier, then having a house twice as big should make me twice as happy.

Unfortunately that's just the kind of thinking that gets far too many people into trouble.  The first bite of a cookie brings you all kinds of joy.  But by the tenth bite, it has gone from unbelievable, to delicious, to simply good, and finally to too much.  This is called The Law Of Diminishing Returns.  It simply states that increasing a given factor [i.e., buying a larger home, taking another bite of a cookie] will result in increasingly marginal returns.  The more you bite into your cookie, the less fantastic each bite will be until in the end you can make yourself sick if you keep on eating.  The larger your home becomes, the less pleasure it gives you, until it eventually becomes so large that it ends up being more of a burden than a pleasure.

So the real question is, at what point does your home go from being a necessity, to being a luxury, and even a burden?  At what point does a tempting dessert become a gross indulgence? Unfortunately only you can answer that question.  Because only you know the reason you are buying a house, or a handbag, or a pair of shoes, or a dessert.  At some point whatever you have your eyes on goes from being a utility and bringing you 100% happiness, to being a luxury that provides you with a minimal increase in happiness, or a burden that drags you down. So the next time you think about buying something.  Take a moment to think about why you are buying it rather than just the what.  

If it is to make your life bearable [a roof over your head] then by all means buy it.  It if is to make your life easier, then think about how necessary it is before you burden yourself with another unnecessary layer of stuff [will having a $350 frying pan really make a better omelet?  Or will it just make you feel special while frying it?].  Finally, if it is something you’re buying to keep up with the Joneses and make you feel better at the next  neighborhood get-together, then take the time to love yourself just the way you are rather than undermining your value with somebody else’s logo.

Where the line is drawn is different for everyone.   So don’t judge others for what they have or why they have it.  At the same time don’t let people judge you.  Just be aware of your own “why” behind the “what” that you do.  Be mindful of the emotions that run through your body as you make the choices you do every day. That is all that should matter.   If you’re honest with yourself about what you are doing, happiness will follow.  But trying to recapture some past pleasure that you're clinging too just never works out.  Nor does listening to the call of advertisers and neighbors.  Believe it or not, they’re more than likely wrong about what YOU really want.


After all, what YOU truly want is part of your own Simple Truth.










Jeffrey Cannon
Simple Truth

Absorb The Love Of The Earth & Return it in Kind

"Forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair." ~ Khalil Gibran


This weekend take a moment to be at one with the world around you.  Find joy in the fact that the earth worships you, the wind worships you, the sun and the stars worship you.  Absorb the love of the world around you and then return it in kind.  


Realize that you are not in the air as you thought you knew it.  But swimming in a warm ocean, rising and falling on the waves that nurture you, if you allow it to.


There energy is there. It is up to you to open and accept it. 










Jeffrey Cannon
Simple Truth

The Safe Adventure of Life

We all want our lives to be a wonderful adventure.  Just not a risky one.  We like the idea of jumping off into never, but don't want to take the first step into the unknown.  So instead of taking a chance we buy a ticket to Disneyland. Instead of running into the woods just miles from our homes, we buy a ticket to some faraway city where you know a Starbucks and a Big Mac will be waiting; not that you want them, but just in case.  


Fear is a great way to excuse yourself from life.  It works on the subconscious level to generate the most logical of excuses why NOT to do something.  That way, your conscious mind tells you, it's not fear, but logic that is driving you.


Unfortunately its brother - regret - is just a few days behind.  You see, regret and fear work together very well.  Regret makes you feel bad that you didn't act.  But it also provides a moment for your brain to search for all those reasons why it was good that you did nothing.  After all, and here is the best excuse I have heard, you are still here aren't you?  


But are you here?  Are you truly aware of what you are doing?  Or are you just living life by habit and rote?  Are you just following your 40,000 year old programming without questioning the life you are leading?  Or are you taking a step away from the herd and seeing what exists for yourself - not just physically, but also emotionally.


There is a big difference between taking a small risk and living by your small fears.  But the emotional reward is night and day.  So be aware of which one is driving your choices, and start enjoying the emotions that mean you're alive.